Do You Want to Know How to Love Your Wife With All Your Heart?

“Do you want to know how to love your wife? Do you want to fulfill your husbandly obligations and develop a healthy relationship with your wife?”

The song goes “This is a man’s world”, but what really is the world of men? Men are trained to be hard SOBs that don’t feel anything and can endure the darkest emotional moments without cracking, not even for a bit.

Yet is this paradigm correct, or is it simply a means to weaken men, marriages and husbands?

Most men feel that showing their true feelings is a sign of weakness, and that being ‘tough’ is what it takes to be a real man. If you have a bad day, you do your best not to show it.

Yet the more you ignore your emotions and your feelings, the less in power you will be, and the harder it will become to be a model for your wife of genuine love that lasts through hardship.

“A real man can embrace his emotions fearlessly and learn to be their master. The weak man is he who shuns himself from all emotion, and becomes the slave of it.” – Unknown Poet

How to Love Your Wife; How to Love Yourself
Two Questions, One Answer

As you learn how to love your wife, you’re also going to learn how to love yourself…It’s only natural.

Why?

Because you’re not really learning ‘how to love your wife’…You’re learning what love is, what it means, and how to express it. In addition to helping you build a love that lasts with your wife, this naturally carries over into your own self-perspective.

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You see - If you don’t mind me getting all metaphysical here for a moment – There is an involuntary journey forced on the lives of every single person on this planet, and that is the journey of self discovery. As you grow older you are faced with different opportunities and challenges that shape the way you perceive yourself and the way you are perceived by the world.

Few men embrace this journey of ‘getting to know’ themselves mainly for one reason; fear of the unknown.

“Very few men truly ever know themselves. Very few men truly ever know love.” – Unknown Source

The journey ‘within’ is a roller coaster ride where you will have your ups and downs; most people don’t mind the ups, it’s the downs they dread…The ‘downs’ are generally heavy emotional battering on that rock hard heart of yours, until it breaks and reveals the true nature and essence of who you really are.

Unfortunately, because of the inherent difficulty of learning how to love (and because of how gay it sounds), many men decide to avoid this journey of self discovery. If you’re like most men, then you…

• Have a nasty habit of closing down your heart, making it impossible to learn how to be romantic to your wife
• Dive only into work and forget about everything else, your wife included. As soon as you get home from work you shut down, watch TV, or just generally withdraw from your wife
• Never focus on finding joy in your marriage; you’d rather go where it’s easy, like getting drinks with your buddies or going to see the ball game

Unfortunately, these kind of men (most men) normally feel unsatisfied at the end of their lives, like they have never truly lived. They never really learned how to love unconditionally; they never learned how to find JOY in a lifelong commitment to their wife.

Most men only ever viewed marriage and love as a prison-like commitment, and so deep down they lived unfulfilled.

Unless you can learn how to love your wife, you are doomed to an unhappy existence. Sounds heavy, but it’s the truth. There will be many hills to climb and many battles to win, but in the end it is all worth it.

Don’t Let Yourself Be Only Half a Man
Make a Commitment to Learn How to Be Romantic to Your Wife

When you married your wife, you made a commitment before man and before God that you would love your wife with a love that lasts forever. That night, you made love to your wife to consummate that commitment through sexual desire.

Since that fateful night, you have either continued with your promise by loving your wife unconditionally, more and more each day, or – And this is what most men do – You have failed in that promise by letting life get in the way, or learning to love yourself above your wife.

Have you ever wondered why men are likelier to have heart attacks than women? It is because women are more connected to their emotions and vent their emotional pressures more freely. Most men, on the other hand, prefer to push down emotions and feelings until a main artery pops and he bleeds to death.

It’s better to learn to express your emotions than bottle them up; not only will you be happier, you’ll live longer too. Everyone needs time to unwind their emotional pressure, and Communication is the way to do that.

3 Methods You Can Use to Identify & Express True Love for Your Wife

You’ll begin to realize how you REALLY feel about your wife when you begin to embark on the journey of self discovery. Most men know that ‘something’ inside the marriage is wrong, but have no idea what that ‘something’ is.

How to Love Your Wife; Method 1 -
Clearing Your Head

A good method to start with is to sit down and just write out how you feel about your wife, no holds barred. There should be no discrimination. This paper is for you and you alone, which means you can say whatever you want, however you want to say it. Just get it all out there.

How to Love Your Wife; Method 2 -
Making Emotional Connections

Create a mind map where you map out which emotions are connected with each other. Also write out the effects of those emotions. Here are a few examples of what I mean:

• When you get angry, do you soon find yourself depressed? Why?
• When you’re happy, do you usually feel empty afterward? Why?
• What state of mind are you in when you’re most satisfied with your marriage?
• What state of mind are you in when you’re least satisfied with your marriage?

To be the best husband you can be, you have to love your wife sacrificially…What emotions, thoughts or excuses are keeping you from doing that?

As you answer these questions and ponder your own emotional ties, soon you will realize that complex emotions are basically a bunch of simple emotions mashed together. By making a ‘map’ of how you feel, it will make it easier for you to explain your emotions to your wife the next time you get angry, upset, depressed or empty.

How to Love Your Wife; Method 3 -
Truly Embracing Open Communication

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This might be the single most important thing to take away from this article…When you are talking to your wife you must always be honest, but you should also not be harsh.

There’s honesty and there’s honesty; find a balance but don’t be afraid to bring up subjects that might make her upset. Even if things seem difficult or rough right now, things will turn out much better in the long term if you’re open and honest, 100% of the time.

Marriage is a beautiful thing, and if you actually put in the effort to learn how to love your wife, how to be romantic to your wife, and how to find contentment in your life, then you will soon be much happier, and your marriage will be stronger for it.

Kindly,
 - Jacob Elichmann @ HusbandHelpHaven