Difficult Question - Why Did Your Wife Cheat On You?

First things first, let’s get one thing absolutely straight.  No matter how terrible of a husband you may have been in the past, or even in the present, there is never any situation in which it is appropriate for your wife to have an affair.  No matter what, your wife should not have cheated, and you should not have been forced to catch cheating.

It’s not your fault, there’s nothing you could’ve done, she just…Cheated. There’s always been cheating potential in your marriage because your wife is the type of person who could cheat (Unfortunately there are more and more of them these days)

But of course, this doesn’t really do anything to answer your question…  “Why did my wife cheat on me?”

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Well, as you continue reading this article, I’d like to do my best to answer some common questions and shed some light on three of the most common reasons that women cheat on their husbands.

“Why Did My Wife Cheat on Me?”
3 Extremely Common Reasons Why Women Cheat

Below I’m going to be going into three of the most commonly seen reasons of eight women cheat on their husbands.

However, please note that made these are only three of the hundreds of reasons that women can decide to cheat on their husbands.

And you know what?

Sometimes there is absolutely no reason at all.  Sometimes your wife will have known all along that she was going to cheat on you…  She planned it from the day that you guys got married, if not before. Some women/men/people just can’t be bothered to maintain sanctity in close relationships like marriage.

It sounds terrible, but it’s true. It happens. So just take these with a slight grain of salt; I can’t say for sure what sent your wife down the path of a lying and cheating spouse. I hope these reasons serve as a post risk assessment of sorts for you, so that you can see what relationship issues could have led to her cheating, which will hopefully make surviving infidelity and rebuilding trust easier down the road.

Reason #1.
She Thought She Was In Love With A Crush

It’s no secret that women are very emotional creatures.  Just about every decision that they make is based on emotion, or in other words, on the way that it makes them feel.

The natural assumption for your wife is probably that what ever feels good to her emotional ad is also what makes the most sense logically.  Not the other way around.

So, imagine if you will die from her perspective she’s bored in the marriage, or unhappy, or what ever.  The point is that sometimes she feels bad.

So what does she do?

Well, nothing at first.  She waits.  She sees if those feelings will go way.  And while she’s waiting, she meets someone…  Someone that she really finds herself quite attracted to.

Fast forward two months down the road, and what do you have?

Your wife has still not made any are real effort to improve your marriage, however, she has been improving her relationship with this ‘new friend’…To the point where she’s developed a small crush of her own.
As time goes on and her resolve weakens in her feelings for this other man become stronger, it becomes simply a matter of chance as to when she will be put in a situation where cheating FEELS like the right thing to do.

And remember, women are all about feeling.

An affair happens when those feelings convince her that infidelity is the right thing to do, and many times a charming ‘other man’ can really help speed along the process.

Reason #2.
She Was Bored in Her Marriage & Cheating Was Easy

there’s no getting around, boredom is just a part of marriage sometimes. That’s not necessarily a bad thing, it’s just the way it is. All relationships have their ups and downs; I think you’d agree that being bored is better than being at each other’s throats 24/7, right?

But sometimes boredom can be even worse than constant bickering, especially depending on how long you’ve been married. Newly weds are much more likely to cheat because many times they haven’t yet experienced boredom in their relationship with their spouse… They freak out and automatically assume they made a mistake, and the affair happens subsequently.

Or in a marriage where your wife has felt bored for a long time, whether she’s told you about or not, many times that boredom can lead to a general feeling of dissatisfaction. When there is dissatisfaction, it’s natural for us to seek a way out of that dissatisfaction. If your wife elects not to fix that that dissatisfaction by making an effort to fix your marriage, then she is likely to turn to other relationships for that fulfillment that she desires.

In other words, having an affair with easier and more pleasurable in the short-term than hashing out the problems in your marriage, or making an effort to rekindle her feelings for you.

Reason #3.
All Her Friends Are Doing It / New Age Woman / Entitlement

In our post-modernistic society where marriage is quickly losing its sanctity and rates of both divorce and infidelity are the highest that they’ve ever been, it’s natural that there are a lot more women cheating on their husbands than there used to be. The same is true for men.

The difference is that there is a stereotype that many people still believe that says men are the only ones who ever commit Adultery, or at least a significantly higher percentage of men cheat on their spouses than women, but this isn’t nearly as true as it used to be.

I don’t remember the exact stats about infidelity, but the last time I brushed up on my infidelity statistics, it was something like 35% to 40% of women have cheated or will cheat in their lives (relationships, not just marriage), and 45 to 50% of men will cheat sometime in their lives. So, percentage-wise the difference is around 10%, but many women assume that the difference is like night and day. Hence, there’s a trend that’s easy to spot in several infidelity websites and forums and other online communities that has women proudly proclaiming that they cheat on their husbands and that they’re happy they do it. They say to women, “Live a little! You know they’re doing it, why shouldn’t we get the same privileges?!”

So what I’m trying to get across here is that women today feel much more entitled to fun, spice, adventure than they ever have before; thus sex with a romantic partner is also more common. It’s to the point where their depravity actually matches our own gender! =O

So this could be why your wife cheated…A general feeling of entitlement in her heart. Entitlement has become one of the key factors associated with cheating.

What Can You Do About it?

Well, sir, that depends on whether or not you still want to save your marriage. I will be totally upfront with you – a cheating wife is grounds for divorce.

Tell yourself the truth; if this is not something that you feel you can recover from then I encourage you to at least look into that path. Especially if your marriage was in a poisoned state before your wife’s affair, divorce may be the best route.

As they say, “once a cheater, always a cheater” and if you haven’t found a suitable answer to “Why Did My Wife Cheat on me?” then that may be a good route to go.

However, if you want to move on from her affair and to save your marriage…If your willing to do anything to get your wife back and reignite passion and love between the two of you, then I encourage you to take things into your own hands. We have lots of free material that you’re encouraged to read through here on HusbandHelpHaven.com.

Whatever you decide to do from here, whether it’s forgive or divorce, I know you will be okay. You’re strong and you’re a man, don’t ever forget it!

Thanks for reading, it’s been a pleasure writing for you.

Kindly,

- Jacob  Elichmann