You Won't Be Able to Logically 'Problem Solve' Your Wife Back

What is preventing you from saving your marriage?

Whether your wife has already left and you've separated, or divorced, or she has at least expressed interest in leaving, what is it that has kept you from reviving your relationship and marriage to its former glory?

It's not your fault that you can't get your wife back, it's the systems that you've been taught for functioning inside of a relationship and a marriage. They're wrong...Dead wrong.

See, there's one critical problem that you're not dealing with, and because you're not dealing with it you're crippling your marriage and any hope of your wife coming back.

So, what is it?

What is REALLY keeping you from getting your wife back?

You're sinking yourself too low.

That's it! That's what you're doing wrong. You are, either consciously or subconsciously, making yourself into a WEAKER MAN; that is NOT the way to get your wife back.

Again, it's not your fault, it's just what men in the 21^st century have been taught to do. We're all living out The Tragic Story of "The Good Husband".

You've Probably Read Long Books on Marriage and Relationships

The marriage-help industry is rife with misinformation, and there are literally thousands of books out there on the subject of relationship revival. Unfortunately for you, most of them were written by women, for women. This means that the information inside of them may make sense, but it's not correct.

Why?

Because you have to remember, and let this be ingrained in the back of your mind, that women do NOT operate on logic.

You've Probably Worked Through In-Depth Courses or Coaching Programs

There are many people out there who know that they can charge you $X,XXX for marriage help, because they know that you're desperate and willing to pay anything to get your marriage back.

Remember "The Good Husband" (inside The DOs & DONTs to Get Your Wife Back)? He's willing to do anything and everything to get his wife back because he is nothing without his wife.

The problem with this is that, once again, all of these courses and coaches don't really know what they're talking about. Everything they teach you is pure, unproven theory, and even though it may make sense while you're carrying out the course, once you get home and actually start putting things into practice you'll rarely, if ever, find your marriage actually improves.

Why Do None Of These Work?

There is one simple reason that books, courses, coaches and counselors won't save your marriage. It's actually quite obvious, and once I explain it to you, you'll probably slap yourself on the forehead for not seeing it this way before. I've already sort of hinted at the problem, but I'd like to lay it out for you plainly now...

The reason that coaching programs, long books and marriage counselors all have no effect on your marriage is because...

Women DO NOT operate on logic. It has NO effect on their decisions.

Instead - and listen carefully to this - women rely entirely on emotion and present feelings to drive their actions.

What this statement means for you is that even if you were to get the best marriage counselor in the world and spend 10 sessions with him/her and finally get to a point where you and your wife both understand what needs to happen to save the marriage...Even after all that, it would take less than 10 minutes for your wife to do a complete 180 once she gets a different 'feeling', and then you're right back where you started.

Because as soon as your wife gets home from and FEELS like she could do better, FEELS like she's not happy, FEELS like there's no spark, that instantly takes precedence in her mind over the hours and hours of counseling. No matter how silly it sounds, she will always put her feelings and emotions ahead of her logic and reason.

It's not sexist, it's not chauvinistic, it's just the way it is.

Guys have their own set of unique characteristics too, trust me, but since this isn't WifeHelpHaven.com we're not too concerned about that right now.

So once you understand that logic, reason, communication, 'working at it', etc, aren't going to save your marriage, what can?

The answer is simple: ATTRACTION is the ONLY thing that will save your marriage.

Think about it, if your wife was attracted to you would she want to leave? No, of course not. So, the key to saving your marriage is, in one word, ATTRACTION. If you can get your wife to FEEL attracted to you, she will stay.

Sound tough?

It isn't, you just need a road map of how to make it happen. My recommendation is that you claim your own copy of The DOs & DONTs to Get Your Wife Back by entering your email address in the sidebar. However, if you want something that is guaranteed to work, I can't recommend a better resource than this one:

Of course, either way you decide to go from here is fine with me...I just want you to be happy! You're free to browse around some more on HusbandHelpHaven.com, or whatever you'd like. I wish you the best of luck, and...

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Are You "The Good Husband" - See If This Tragic Story Rings True

It's not your fault that your marriage is on the rocks, and only seems to be getting your worse.

It's not your fault that your wife is pulling a little further away from you each and every day.

It's not your fault that there's no chemistry left in your marriage and that your wife is ready to move on to greener pastures.

It's not you that has failed in saving your marriage, it's the people that have been telling you how to do it.

Related Post: Why You Can't Problem Solve Your Marriage

You see, the most common advice that desperate husbands receive when their marriage is on the rocks is something along the lines of "you need to be a better husband". The logical thought behind this is that if you're a good husband, then you will in turn have a wife that is good to you, too.

The Good Husband + The Good Wife = The Perfect Marriage

Pretty simple equation, right?

Unfortunately, this rarely works out to be the case. You and I both know that you ARE a good husband (well, most of you anyways...)! Trying harder to be a good husband isn't going to get you anywhere. The fact of the matter is that when it comes to marriage, the good guy rarely wins. I'd like you to keep reading below and tell me if any of this sounds familiar to you…This is the story of 'The Good Husband'.

The Tragic, But Too-Often-True, Story of
"The Good Husband"

Has your wife told you that she wants divorce? Let me guess, your first reaction was to tell her something along the lines of “No, I don't want a divorce, I believe we can work through this!”

Because that's what a good husband is supposed to do right? "The Good Husband" never wants divorce. This is logical, yes, but remember what I said earlier..."The Good Husband" never actually wins. When you tell your wife that you want to work on things and make the marriage better, you're not doing any good at all. You're just showing her that you don't know what to do, almost like you're asking her to stay...This is a bad idea.

Absolutely 0% of women respond to this.

Now, I'm not telling you that you should want to divorce your wife… After all, that's the whole point of this website! What I am telling you is that there's a better way to save your marriage than trying to brute force it into submission.

"The Good Husband" is Willing to Do Anything

This is a classic example of "The Good Husband" trying to get his wife back. He will tell her that he'll do anything to keep her from leaving. He will beg and plead for her to stay, repeatedly asking her what he can do to keep her around.

But guess what?

She leaves anyways.

Maybe not right away, but ALWAYS eventually.

Do you want to know why this is? It's because even though you think you're being the good husband, telling your wife that you'll do 'anything for her' is actually a turn off.

Sure, when things are peachy in your marriage it's a great thing to let your wife know you'll do anything for her, that your love is unconditional, but when she's already thinking about leaving, you will only make matters worse with this sentiment.

"The Good Husband" Won't Stop Working At it

Since "The Good Husband" is willing to do anything to save the marriage, he's also willing to keep trying and keep trying, no matter what.

"The Good Husband" lets his wife know that he's not going to quit on the marriage; he tells her that he'll try better communication, he'll be more present at home, he'll go to marriage counseling, he'll do WHATEVER (Even get down on his knees and beg), but after all that she still leaves anyways.

As the good husband, you probably tried each and every conventional approach to getting your wife to come back to you. You've looked at the problem from every logical angle and tried to fix any and anything you see wrong with the marriage, but it still doesn't work.

Why?

Because women don't fundamentally work on logic! So trying to use a logical approach to save your marriage isn't going to work.

It just isn't.

"The Good Husband" is Nothing Without Her

This is one last truth about "The Good Husband"… His wife knows that he is nothing without her. He's desperately dependent on her, hence his willingness to do anything to save the marriage.

Once again, because your wife knows this it actually makes things worse for you.

When your wife believes that you are nothing without her, she feels smothered, trapped and most of all, disgusted.

In Other Words, "The Good Husband" is Weak

This is what it really comes down to, and what I am going to try and hammer into your mind throughout both this website and my free report (sidebar to your right), The DOs & DONTs to Get Your Wife Back.

"The Good Husband" is weak - "The Good Husband" is not really a good husband at all because he doesn't know how to make his wife FEEL like she wants to stay in the marriage.

And that is the missing ingredient...Feeling.

If you can't make your wife FEEL like she wants to stay, she won't stay. Plain and simple.

It takes a strong man to attract a woman. "The Good Husband" is – NOT – a strong man, he is a weak one. Your wife knows it, you feel it, and because of it, you will not save your marriage. Something needs to change. Luckily, that's what Husband Help Haven is all about!

I hope you enjoyed reading, you're always welcome here =)

Kindly,
- Jacob Elichmann @ HusbandHelpHaven.com

Editorial: You can this post was republished from my Husband Help Blog. You should check it out, I regularly update it with new articles and guides.

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