The Secret to Accepting Healthy Criticism From Your Wife

Are there communication problems in your marriage? Do you struggle to accept criticism or other negative feelings from your wife without getting into a defensive fit of frustration?

I think you agree with me when I say that men, as a whole, are not very good at taking criticism. Of course, no one really LIKES criticism, but I feel that men handle it particularly worse than women.

So, as you continue to read the rest of this article, I'd like to talk to you about the healthy way to accept criticism from your wife. This is a pivotal step in learning how to communicate with your wife effectively, and I can virtually guarantee the your marriage will see improvements because of the tips outlined below.

Basically, I play the process out into a simple four step plan.

Step #1 – Don't Take It Personally

This should really be called Step #0, because this is the basic understanding you need to have before you can effectively control your reaction to any negative feelings coming from your wife.

I'm not saying that your wife never has or never will make a personal attack on you, which is nearly always out of line, but the majority of the time what you take as a personal attack is really just your wife trying to communicate something uncomfortable to you.

Sometimes there's just no good way to say something that needs to be said. You need to understand that, and take her words accordingly. Always assume that she is NOT trying to put you down or make a personal attack on you, but that she is making a legitimate effort to improve your relationship.

Step #2 – Be Empathetic With Your Wife

Really, I could have switched these first two steps around and been okay, but at this point it doesn't really matter. The important thing is that you understand how critically important it is for you to BE EMPATHETIC with your wife, not just when she's delivering bad news, but all the time.

There is no such thing as being too empathetic with your wife. It just doesn't exist.

Always try to imagine yourself in her shoes in any given situation, and I can tell you right now that all of those "insurmountable marriage problems" will suddenly seem easier to get through.

Step #3 – Take a Deep Breath

I know that a lot of what I'm telling you is much easier said than done. When you're in the moment, so to speak, and you can feel that frustration and anger welling up inside of you, it's very difficult to force yourself to (A) not take things personally and (B) be empathetic with your wife.

I know that!

I'm a guy too, remember?

So I want you to make this your automatic reaction anytime you start to feel yourself getting angry, frustrated, upset or otherwise pessimistic…

Take a DEEP breath.

And if you still feel frustrated?

Take another.

If you can force yourself to take a precious few moments to calm down and diffuse the situation, conflict resolution will become much easier in your marriage.

Step #4 – Think before You Speak

This is the last step to successfully navigate your way through the reception of any criticism or negative feelings from your wife. If you have already made it through steps 1, 2 and 3, then step 4 should be pretty easy for you.

Both men and women have a tendency to speak without thinking, and it can have dire consequences in your marriage. You need to be very careful to always think about what you're saying BEFORE you say it. It's impossible to take back a mean or hurtful comment once it passes the threshold of your lips.

Even if your wife is being venomous to you, still think before you speak back and your conflict will resolve much quicker.

By following these four steps, you will find that resolving problems in your marriage is easier and less hurtful than it's ever been before.

I hope that you've learned something about dealing with common marriage problems. I know that things are probably still kind of confusing for you right now, but don't worry, that just means you're normal.

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Thanks for reading!

How To Know If You Can Save Your Marriage

“Can I Get My Wife Back? Can I Save My Marriage? Everything I’ve Done Has Only Pushed Her Away…”

I know you, and I know that you want to avoid divorce by any means necessary. Don’t take my ‘The Good Husband’ story example the wrong way…It doesn’t make you weak if you want to save your marriage. It’s all about how you approach it and your wife’s perception of you.

“Yes or No…Can I Save My Marriage?”

I know that things seem impossible right now. I know that it feels like everything you’re doing is only further destroying your marriage. But believe me when I tell you that you can save your marriage no matter how bad things have become.

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It’s not too late to save marriage…

• Even if you or your wife has committed infidelity or adultery, or even if she continues to have an affair, you can get her back.
• Even if you’re already divorced and the papers have been signed, you can get her back.
• Even if you’re separated and she’s enjoying the single life while you’re left lonely and miserable, you can get her back.
• Even if you’ve already tried marriage counseling, maybe even multiple counselors, and had no success, you can get her back.
• Most importantly – Even if you are the only one making an effort to save your marriage, you can STILL get her back.

The saying “Where there’s a will, there’s a way” has a strong correspondence here, but it’s not quite as simple as that. You see, I know that you have the ‘Will’ to save your marriage, but the ‘Way’ that you’ve been taught is completely backwards. You’ve been taught that you need to rebuild a connection with your spouse, which is true, but what you’ve been taught about gaining a woman’s attention back is all wrong. The secret isn’t communication or couples counseling or conflict resolution.

No matter how much ‘Will’ you throw at the wrong ‘Way’, you’re not going to have an impact on your wife or your marriage. Conversely, when you find the right ‘Way’, it actually doesn’t take that much ‘Will’ to heat things up again…Things just naturally fall into place.

I’m telling you this because I don’t want you to give up hope. You can still get your marriage back on track, no matter what. It might be the most difficult thing you will ever do in your life, but I promise you that it is possible to make the reasons to stay with you outnumber the reasons to Divorce, and the answer isn’t in some marriage counselor.

But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t act quickly…The longer you wait, the harder it is to make a difference in your wife’s feelings.

“Okay, I’m Ready, How Can I Get My Wife Back?”

What you need to do is focus on returning to the man that your wife fell in love with.

Here are some quick things you should try to get an idea of what might re-attract your wife to you

1. Meditate back on who you were when you met your wife; what were you like back then?
2. Try and find some old letters or emails or something that you wrote to or about your wife from the time…See what sounded different about you, what you said differently, what you did differently
3. See if you can spend some time with your old buddies. You know, the ones that really bring you back, the ones that remind you what it’s like to be a man again.
4. Get out there, enjoy yourself and re-ignite your manhood (that doesn’t mean sleep with some random bimbo; it means remember what it means to have testosterone flowing through your veins).

So, stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop throwing a pity party and stop thinking that you’ll never be happy again…You can and you will continue to grow as a man. With or without your wife, things will get better, but it’s my job is to make sure things get better with your wife, not without.

But I need your help to make it happen – You have to be willing to forget everything you think you know about how women and relationships and marriage works, and change your perspective on attraction and love. I’m not going to tell you it takes ‘hard work’, because honestly it doesn’t…It just takes ‘hard understanding’.

I’ve talked a lot about what it takes to get your wife back in other articles…The purpose of this one is to reassure you that YES – NO MATTER WHAT you can get your wife back, even from the brink of divorce.

In fact, you can have the best marriage of your life even after being on the rocks, you just have to rebuild that attraction with your wife. When your wife FEELS like she wants you she will naturally stop thinking about divorce, leaving you, or being single, and she’ll start thinking about a happy future with you. The problem or question you need to address now is why your relationship has a lack of attraction?

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“I Still Want to Know More About How I Can Save My Marriage”

 

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I suggest that at this point you either continue exploring Husband Help Haven or you could check out my honest review of the Marriage Savior System by Michael Cross…I think you’ll find it eye opening. Either way…

I wish you the best of luck, and I know you can get your wife back! Just imagine what it’ll be like when things are back to the way they used to be in the peak of your relationship; think of the passionate sex, the lovey-dovey behavior, the friendship, the way problems just didn’t matter…That will be your marriage soon enough.

Stop trying to fix your wife; focus on fixing yourself.

Thanks for reading!

Kindly,
 - Jacob Elichmann @ HusbandHelpHaven.com